Always at the beginning of a relationship, when you are in the midst of the honeymoon phase, and novelty and anticipation are simply intoxicating, you may feel like you have finally met your "other half," that one special person who is made just for you…

And here it's important to tell yourself "stop" to avoid completely spoiling everything.

So, what are we talking about. When we talk about a "soulmate" or "other half," we usually assume that it refers to a perfectly suited partner in the spiritual, intellectual, emotional, and sexual spheres. A person who has the same interests, hobbies, etc., as you. But that never happens. And as soon as you notice a mismatch or difference, for example, he/she is not punctual or, as it turns out, is easy/difficult about money, or have different political views, or opinions on raising children, the first reaction is— not such a "soulmate" after all.

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At this point, it is crucial to accept the fact that you are different and that's okay. After all, everyone grew up and was raised in different conditions, with different life situations and examples. You have to learn about each other, and there are interesting discoveries ahead of you because each person may have their own idea of what it means to love and respect each other. Because for someone it is important to hear words of love every day, while someone else is used to expressing love and respect through actions and attitudes.

 I see many couples who seek counseling due to dissatisfaction with how their relationship is developing, and many have high expectations for their "other half," demanding them to be a friend, a lover, and a partner.

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But in reality, it's hard to meet someone's expectations 24/7, so it's always important to observe "hygiene rules," especially when communicating with your loved one:

• Always have your own personal space, while remaining part of a couple, feeling your own boundaries and those of your "other half," expressing your needs and desires, providing her/him the freedom to fulfill them or not, knowing where the unacceptable line lies, and being able to value the most important—depth and warmth in the relationship.
• Openly express your wishes with a balance of sincerity and politeness, be able to admire and respect your partner for the good that is in them, allowing them to be imperfect in some ways.
• Have a healthy sense of self-interest, when a person first takes care of themselves and then of others—this is the secret to success and a happy life, because only by initially satisfying their own needs a person can share their abilities with another, only when ready and with pleasure.
• Respect yourself. The external always equals the internal. If you know what it means to love and respect yourself, you can certainly treat another with respect and love.

Once you establish a relationship with Yourself, you will allow the best to come into your life and will surely meet your "soulmate" or "other half," and most importantly, you will be able to create and maintain a relationship for many years.

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