People of different ages, genders, religions, professions, etc., consult a psychologist. All with different problems, but all united by one thing – “soul pain.” When there's a question you can't find an answer to, when doubts and anxiety “eat” you from the inside, and there's no understanding of how to live on. Everyone faces such situations and there's no need to wait until things get so exacerbated that a psychosomatic disorder or medical diagnosis appears…

Let’s talk about where “soul pain” comes from and maybe someone will find ways out of their situation. Have you ever wondered what “soul pain” is?

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Often, this state hides unprocessed emotions and feelings, for example, when anger was suppressed and resentment was not expressed, possibly due to fear of being abandoned or for some other reason.  But if we assume that the situation wants to teach us something, what could that be?

First, you need to start by admitting that yes, it hurts, yes, it's unpleasant, and ask yourself the question: “If soul pain is my Teacher, what does it want to teach me?” And if you honestly answer your question, you will be surprised because you will understand that “soul pain” is your ally; it came into your life with only one purpose – to draw your attention, and this is always the beginning of changes in personality and environment.

Second, take care of your body. In reality, the body is the wisest instrument and gift we possess. The body has a unique ability to recover after emotional and physical shocks. This can be explained by the connection between emotions and physiology.

If an emotion is realized and experienced, we live without tension and psychosomatic disorders.

But if we do not allow ourselves to live out emotions, pushing them inside, it creates monuments to unprocessed emotions in the form of cysts, muscle spasms, undiagnosed pain syndromes, etc.

Therefore, to quickly come out of a painful state, you need to return to reality. And this can only be done through the body:

• Start doing exercises (they can be any type, at your discretion)
• Add breathing exercises (2-5 minutes, not very deep, just focus on inhaling through your nose and exhaling through your mouth)
• Watch your diet and sleep.  Remember how Baron Munchausen pulled himself out of the swamp by his hair? That's what you have to do now – persistently, consistently, and there will be results.
• Special exercises. If you feel overwhelmed by emotions that draw you back to the past, you need to do this exercise at least once and remember the impression. Then, if necessary, mentally repeat it.

Exercise: stand on a newspaper and tear it with your legs, the more pieces, the better, but at least 10.

• Add at least 10-15 minutes of walking. During the walk, listen to yourself: how you breathe, the air quality, whether you are warm or cold, what's around you, the weather, etc.

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Third, start noticing your surroundings. Maybe someone needs your help right now. Initially, it may be difficult, as all feelings and sensations are focused on yourself. But making an effort and overcoming the blues, you will surely feel an incredible surge of strength and desire to live.

  If you understand that you can't cope – consult a psychologist, iPsycholog team knows, can, and is able to guide you on this path.

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