Whether you are going through a divorce or a breakup, whether you were left or you left someone, let's talk about how to get through a separation and maintain your mental and physical health. 

Suppose you were making plans, thinking about weddings, children, or maybe that was already your story. And now there's emptiness, depressive thoughts, could it be like this forever?

The bad news is that «separation is a small death», but there is also good news - finishing a relationship with a partner is always the start of a relationship with yourself.

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After all, if this situation makes you pay attention to yourself, your thoughts, and feelings, dedicate time, strength, and energy to yourself, thus making each day rich, bright, and inspiring, you will not only overcome the breakup but also gain experience that will help view any problems as mere temporary difficulties. Here are some recommendations to start with:

1. Cry as much as you need. It's wise to cry when you're sad. Holding back tears will leave you with a constant lump in your throat, and it's not long before you may face psychosomatic disorders. Find a good place – shower, car, etc., and let your tears flow. A loud scream – is also a great way.
2. Take care of yourself. Even if you're not kissing someone every day now, you still need to brush your teeth twice a day. Eat regularly and qualitatively. Give yourself physical activity and ensure you get enough sleep. It's all about balance.
3. Friends are known in trouble. This is exactly the case. Don’t hesitate, write to them that you feel bad and need a «shoulder to cry on», then let them tell silly jokes to make you laugh. Laughter is gold in this case. Although you may want to isolate yourself after the breakup, remember that communication is a cure for you right now.
4. A short trip. Be it a day trip around the city or a journey across the country, a change of scenery can work wonders. Accept friends' or relatives' invitation or simply buy an inexpensive ticket on a bus, train, or plane and do it. You will definitely have a motive to get out of bed in the morning if you're going for experiences – a tour, sightseeing, beach, etc.
5.  Rearrange. And it works. Change your space so you don't perceive the couch as the one your ex sat on. Remove the dishes, so you don't remember he ate from them. Buy flowers for yourself and place them in a prominent place. Stick glowing stars on the ceiling. Print photos from your short trip. In this way, you will create a new reality and new memories.
6.  Forget about social media at least for a while. If you visit social networks, it is hard to resist the temptation to check your past relationships' profiles on Instagram, Facebook, etc., and afterwards, you are unlikely to feel good. Checking if the exes have photos with new partners will definitely not help you cope with the breakup. In any case, social networks are a kind of illusion.

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You have a reality where you learn to live again – breathe, listen to yourself, rejoice in new discoveries, enjoy new experiences. The more you are present in your real life, the faster you get rid of the ghost and wounds of your past relationships. It may happen within a week, or it may take a year. Who knows? Everyone is different.

Talking to a psychologist will definitely help you feel better immediately and find out how to handle a breakup. And remember that a problem is always a chance to change everything for the better.

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