Do you remember the favorite game of little girls? The themes vary, but the essence is always the same – the girl plays the best (in the child's opinion) mom in the world, everyone has their own idea of the "best mom" based, of course, on life experience.

Look closely at your child or recall your own childhood, and you might catch the cause-and-effect relationship and suddenly want to change something. Remember, EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE and EVERYTHING IN ITS TIME.

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So, what types of moms exist in nature:

• Simply happy and content with herself, life mother. Her world is beautiful, she always finds meaning, resources, organizes the space around her in such a way as to balance tension – relaxation (even when cleaning the apartment with her child), process – result ("enjoys" the process of making borscht according to her son’s or daughter’s recipe), taking – giving (does not rush for early development but simply trusts the child and gives him time) and thereby demonstrates an amazing example for her child to follow. She will teach how to be friends, to respect one's own and others' boundaries, to enjoy each day, to see an opportunity in the most difficult situations, to accept all her feelings and states.

And this means that the child does not waste energy on anxiety, fear, and compliance with prohibitions. He simply trusts the world, believes in himself. And interest in life, joy, and success is his daily worldview.

• Simply a depressive mother or "dead", always tired, harassed, and "burned out," nothing makes her happy, and the child tries with all his might to "revive" her, takes responsibility for all failures, disappointments, blames himself for the mother's suffering.

And this means that such an unbearable burden becomes the child's first and devastating experience of helplessness and hopelessness. And in subsequent life, the daily worldview of this child will be the belief that there is no reason to love him, he is bad, and there is no one to protect him.

• Simply an anxious mother, always on guard and expecting trouble. "You can't laugh – you'll cry," and so on, and if it happens, the reproachful "I warned you" sounds like a self-fulfilling prophecy. The world is hostile, cannot be trusted, especially with friendship, must obey mom because she knows better, and has more experience.

And this means that anxiety and fear are passed from mother to child, and there is no trust in the world, no belief in oneself and one's abilities, all days are gray and joyless, all energy is spent trying to prevent disaster and at least survive.

• Simply an unhappy mother. Making her happy is unrealistic since there are always reasons for unhappiness. But feeling sorry for her is impossible, it makes things worse, and being happy even more so.

And this means that the child, for safety's sake, prohibits himself from many childhood joys, because he sees the world through his mother's eyes, and there everything is sad – her gaze, facial expression, attitude towards life, and worldview are all about unhappiness.

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Every child in the world needs a mom, any kind, even depressive, anxious, and unhappy. Children are magnanimous, and if you lack the strength, desire, or time to become happy for yourself, do it for your child.

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