Often in a psychologist's consultation, a strong resentment towards parents is "revealed." They didn't give enough love, time, attention when it was so needed. They didn't allow you to feel your feelings, think your thoughts, imposed beliefs that now strongly hinder your life. They forbade you from being yourself…, but honestly, that time has long passed. And if you now ask yourself the question, who now prevents you from being yourself, living your life? The answer will be obvious - myself.

It's time to meet the one who now hinders you from being yourself)

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Get to know yourself, discover the real you and start with an experiment. Make a list of what was forbidden in childhood, start with the phrase “I was forbidden in childhood, but now I want and can…” and enjoy breaking the rules. Everyone will have their own list, the more points you remember, the richer and more interesting your life will begin, and the faster you'll understand what “my life – my responsibility and only I choose…” means.

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And to make it easier to structure the information you will receive from the experiment, use the 4 Areas Life Balance Model (also known as the “Peseschkian crystal”).

A person's self-perception directly depends on how they allocate time and energy among these spheres. Ideally, you should allocate the same amount of time to each of them. And if you take all life energy as 100%, then each of the spheres should have 25%.

Try to explore yourself in 4 areas. Do you know everything about yourself, are you satisfied with everything, do you give yourself enough care, protection, compassion, attention, respect, etc.? Is there anything you would like to change in your relationship with yourself? Be sure to write down your thoughts:

• Body Sphere (sleep, sex, sensations, nutrition, health, appearance, etc.)
• Activity Sphere (achievements, work, money, education, career, etc.)
• Contacts Sphere (emotions, relationships, communication, hobbies, spouses, relatives, friends, traditions, etc.)
• Fantasy, Future Sphere (faith, dreams, goals, values, meanings, fantasies, etc.)

You can explore yourself for a lifetime, and it's important to follow these rules:

1. It's important to treat your body with care. Perhaps it's not perfect, but it is given for a lifetime.
2. Always perceive any problem as an opportunity to change your life for the better.
3. Be grateful for all Lessons, remembering that loved ones are always our Karmic Teachers.
4. See that the external always equals the internal. As soon as we change ourselves, everything around changes.
5. Find the strength to change in your life what can be changed, accept what cannot be changed, and ask for the wisdom to distinguish one from the other.

 "Everyone feels that others are responsible for their misfortune. The husband thinks the wife is responsible for his misfortune, the wife thinks the husband is responsible for her misfortune, children think parents are responsible for their misfortune, parents think children are responsible for their misfortune. Everything gets so tangled up. And every time someone else is responsible for your misfortune, you don't realize that by rejecting responsibility, you also lose freedom. Responsibility and freedom are two sides of the same coin." (Osho)

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