The Slavs always had a cult of parents. As a rule, children addressed their parents as "you" (formal), respected, and revered them. In return, they received parental blessing as a talisman and protection, being nourished by the energy of their kin. It was terrifying not to receive parental blessing - this was tantamount to the automatic failure of all endeavors. 

Today, modern parent-child relationships have become simpler and more flexible. But there is always a pattern. If "parental blessing" is given for maturation, separation, marriage, childbearing, career, financial flows, etc., it signifies unconditional parental love and acceptance, belief that everything will be alright. In such a case, the "child" automatically moves to a different level of development. They become capable of having quality relationships - with their spouse, their children, other people, etc. Having received this gift from their parents, a son or daughter, growing up, passes it on to their children, and so on.

In many families, this is exactly the case. Growing up with the "right parents," a child becomes the same "right parent" for their own children in the future. But there are examples, unfortunately, where things are different.

If you, seeing or hearing stories about how someone lucked out with their parents, realize that this story, alas, is not from your life – do not rush to be offended, sad, or fall into depression.

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Acknowledging and accepting the fact that relationships with your parents did not work out can open your eyes to at least 3 different scenarios.

So, it doesn't matter for what reason you "didn't see eye to eye" with your parents:

• Due to religious or political beliefs
• Your parents are narcissists or have borderline personality disorders
• You experienced emotional, verbal, or physical abuse in childhood
• Your parents did not love each other or were divorced and took it out on you
• Other

For any of the above reasons, there is a reason, of course, to be upset, and sometimes even cry.

It is important to remember that crying and paying are different things. This is about paying for “endlessly replaying unpleasant memories from the past” with your health and energy, which could be directed to today, bringing forth benefits in the future. To do this:

1. Acknowledge the fact that your parents gave you life and only thanks to this, you will be able or have already been able to give life to your children.
2. Direct all your efforts towards creating the family you dreamed of as a child.
3. Become a caring and loving parent for your child, the one you lacked in your own childhood. This amazing experience will help you live through your unfulfilled happy childhood.

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And it's important here to "pull yourself out" from the state of "constantly pressing on a sore spot." Become a loving and caring parent for yourself, give yourself the "blessing" for all the joys of life you dream of, using all available resources.

If you feel that you can't cope, take care of yourself and consult a psychologist.

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